When It Does Not Work

Relationships

Trying Marriage Counselling

When two people in a long term relationship begin arguing about even the smallest issues, there can be massive problems under the surface of their relationship. Some of them will eventually recognise the truth of it, and they might decide it would be best to call off the relationship. Others might feel their issues can be solved, but stumbling through the process could make matters worse. For those determined to keep their relationship while solving their underlying issues, trying marriage counselling could be a good plan.

Not all couples today are formally married in a legal agreement, but any long term relationship that has lasted more than a decade can be considered an informal marriage. Even couples without a legal document can consider going to a marriage counsellor when they face issues impossible to solve. Their commitment to each other is the most important factor, and preserving the relationship is what counselling can help them do.

Arguments about child care, careers, and even those about money are often symptoms instead of real issues. A counsellor is trained to help a couple see beyond the surface issues to identify what is really wrong. Their work can take time because many people are unable to agree there are underlying reasons their relationship is falling apart. Bringing a couple to the point where they can recognise and discuss their real problems is what makes counselling worthwhile.

Not all issues can be solved by going to see a counsellor, but many of them can be identified better with help. Once a couple has realised what is actually happening between them, they will need to decide whether or not they are willing to find solutions that will work for them. Those who are determined to keep their relationship can often find ways to work around or solve their problems, and they often come out of counselling with a stronger emotional bond.